Wedding and Valley Fair

Hey! Look at this! There is another blog post in the same month! Well, this is just an update on some of the things that I have been doing the last couple of weeks.

James and I went to a wedding in the Milwaukee area, where I was able to meet his parents which went surprisingly well. His mom and dad were both extremely nice and welcoming to me considering they are still working on coming to terms with James being gay.

On the way to the wedding, James took me to mini golf which was really fun! It was at a course that had two options: California and Wisconsin. Sorry California, but the Wisconsin side looked more fun, so we played that. I beat James, but not by much.
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I was laying in bed watching TV this evening when all of these thoughts came into my head and I thought they would be good to write here, on my blog.

Way back at the end of 2011, I was on Grindr, which, in case you aren’t familiar, is a gay smartphone app that is used to meet guys. Here in La Crosse, it is hard to find good gay guys (and Grindr isn’t really a good alternative), but I was on there and found a picture of a guy that was in the newsroom at WKBT. I knew this because we had these awful orange squares on the wall that were apparently part of an old set and they were in the background of this guys picture.
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That’s so GAY!

Well, it has been a long time since I have posted an update on here, so I thought that I would take this time to do that now.

First off, today the Supreme Court of the United States (or SCOTUS) ruled that DOMA (the Defense of Marriage Act) and Prop 8 were unconstitutional. This is awesome news if you are someone in the LGBT community. This is particularly important for me as there is someone who down the road I would like to marry and is also a male.
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Life Update April, 2013

It has yet again been a while since I updated. I thought that I would give an update on what has been going on in my life. The last time that I updated this site was back a little over 3 months ago when I posted asking James out. Three months later and I am glad that I did! I know that if you go back in the archive of this site and read previous posts about ex-boyfriends, you will see that I always think that they are “the one” and that it is going to last forever and all of this. This time, I think it is the real deal.

In the past few months, we have been super chill about things and we love each other very much. It isn’t an intense burn bright and fast then go out type of feeling this time. It built up slowly and is fairly intense right now and has stabilized there. We have not argued or had any fights about anything which has never happened to me in any relationship. We both want the same things from life. A house, kids, time with each other to travel, relax and just be happy.
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Life has a way…

Life has a way of balancing out the natural order of things. If you do something that is bad or dishonest or anything like that, life will eventually correct it for you. This is a lesson that I learned recently and am sad to say, I wish I hadn’t.

My friend Jay and I have been trying to talk to guys and actually find some happiness in our lives, specifically in the relationship department. Here in La Crosse, it is hard to find single gay men other than going down to the gay bars and generally, the guys down there are more likely to have all slept with each other than just be looking for something meaningful and long term, which is what we have been looking for.

After talking to a number of guys on gay social apps like Grindr and Hornet, we found quite a few guys whose mentality was “don’t talk to me unless you are a super model, otherwise you are wasting both of our time”. As you can imagine, Jay and I got tired of this attitude and decided to fuck with these people and others.

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Latter Days

Elder Aaron Davis: [about him being gay] What if it’s not something I’ve done? What if it’s who I am?

Hymn For All Those Left Behind
from Latter Days Soundtrack

He always gravitates to the minor key(s)
As he navigates his way away from me
He claims a guardian for every sailor in the storm
But where are the patrons for those left on the shore
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