Wedding and Valley Fair

Hey! Look at this! There is another blog post in the same month! Well, this is just an update on some of the things that I have been doing the last couple of weeks.

James and I went to a wedding in the Milwaukee area, where I was able to meet his parents which went surprisingly well. His mom and dad were both extremely nice and welcoming to me considering they are still working on coming to terms with James being gay.

On the way to the wedding, James took me to mini golf which was really fun! It was at a course that had two options: California and Wisconsin. Sorry California, but the Wisconsin side looked more fun, so we played that. I beat James, but not by much.
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Thoughts

I was laying in bed watching TV this evening when all of these thoughts came into my head and I thought they would be good to write here, on my blog.

Way back at the end of 2011, I was on Grindr, which, in case you aren’t familiar, is a gay smartphone app that is used to meet guys. Here in La Crosse, it is hard to find good gay guys (and Grindr isn’t really a good alternative), but I was on there and found a picture of a guy that was in the newsroom at WKBT. I knew this because we had these awful orange squares on the wall that were apparently part of an old set and they were in the background of this guys picture.
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That’s so GAY!

Well, it has been a long time since I have posted an update on here, so I thought that I would take this time to do that now.

First off, today the Supreme Court of the United States (or SCOTUS) ruled that DOMA (the Defense of Marriage Act) and Prop 8 were unconstitutional. This is awesome news if you are someone in the LGBT community. This is particularly important for me as there is someone who down the road I would like to marry and is also a male.
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Life Update April, 2013

It has yet again been a while since I updated. I thought that I would give an update on what has been going on in my life. The last time that I updated this site was back a little over 3 months ago when I posted asking James out. Three months later and I am glad that I did! I know that if you go back in the archive of this site and read previous posts about ex-boyfriends, you will see that I always think that they are “the one” and that it is going to last forever and all of this. This time, I think it is the real deal.

In the past few months, we have been super chill about things and we love each other very much. It isn’t an intense burn bright and fast then go out type of feeling this time. It built up slowly and is fairly intense right now and has stabilized there. We have not argued or had any fights about anything which has never happened to me in any relationship. We both want the same things from life. A house, kids, time with each other to travel, relax and just be happy.
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Lisa may be right

My horoscope:

Leo – Dec 22

You’re exercising some self control when you could be going hog-wild — and the universe won’t let this herculean effort go unnoticed. The first unexpected byproduct could be more meaningful connection with someone close to you. Someone you’re fully tuned into, instead of letting the myriad other happenings distract you. Another benefit you can start reaping is the suddenly louder voice of your intuition, letting you know the right thing to do.
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Lessons

When I was talking to a fellow CSM at work (Lisa Bass) last week about someone, she told me that patience is a good thing and that in the end, if I was patient, I may get what I want from said someone. I then updated my status on Facebook to “Each person that I have had close to me has taught me a different lesson. The hardest lesson to learn is being taught to me right now: patience. Why is it so hard to learn this?” Then I thought that it would be a good idea to make a blog post here with various lessons that I have learned from people in my life.

I wasn’t sure what order I wanted to put these into, but I guess I will order them chronologically:
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I Google’d for Love

and I got the following that I think was good and important:

Love is both an action and a feeling. The action of love generates a blissful feeling called by the same name. When the action stops, the blissful feeling is replaced with pain. Every person is capable of great love (and its opposite, fear, which generates all painful emotions such as hate, greed and jealousy).

While there are many different ways to define love and there are many different ways to love someone (or even yourself), here is a general guide to loving.

Steps

  1. Say it. When you say the words “I Love You”, they should carry with them the desire to show someone that you love them, not what you simply want to feel. When you say it, make sure you really mean it and are willing to do anything for that special person.
  2. Empathize. Put yourself in someone else’s shoes. Rather than impose your own expectations or attempt to control them, to understand how they feel, where they come from, and who they are. Realize how they could also love you back just as well.
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I should learn this

If I do not want what you want, please try not to tell me that my want is wrong.

Or if I believe other than you, at least pause before you correct my view.

Or if my emotion is less than yours, or more, given the same circumstances, try not to ask me to feel more strongly or weakly.

Or yet if I act, or fail to act, in the manner of your design for action, let me be.

I do not, for the moment at least, ask you to understand me. That will come only when you are willing to give up changing me into a copy of you.

I may be your spouse, your parent, your offspring, your friend or your colleague. If you will allow me any of my own wants, or emotions, or beliefs, or actions, then you open yourself, so that some day these ways of mine might not seem so wrong, and might finally appear to you as right – for me.

To put up with me is the first step to understanding me. Not that you embrace my ways as right for you, but that you are no longer irritated or disappointed with me for my seeming waywardness. And in understanding me you might come to prize my differences from you, and, far from seeking to change me, preserve and even nurture those differences.