Monthly Archive for December, 2002

Recap and some more new info…

Well, I have to make up for not posting about the other night, and make a new post from last night.

Sunday
We had planned a get together. When I say we, I mean Joyous, Laura and Ben. I meet Joyous and Laura at the theatre and we go to Joyous’ house so she can change, and that is where we are going to meet Ben. He is going to meet us at like 7:30, and it is only like 6:45, so we have time to kill. We decide to go to the haunted pond by Joyous’ house, and she tells us stories about it. We get done there, and still have time to kill, so we go into the old cemetary and start walking around. We don’t go too far, because we promised Ben that we wouldn’t do anything without him. So we go back to the “Train Station” (hat is what it is called) and meet Ben. First thing out of his mouth: “We need to get alcohol.” We ignore that comment, and go to the cemetary. It was a lot of fun, we spent like an hour walking around in the dark looking at all the kewl headstones, and listening to Joyous tell us all the stories about the different graves and stuff.

Afterwards, we went back to where Ben was parked to decide what to do next, because our original plan of going to the city was not going to work out because Ben had to meet up with his friend at 10, and it was like 8:15 now. So we decide that we need to go and get booze to drink, and so we go to Montgomery Village and get some Vodka, Wine Coolers and Red Bull. All of us head on up to Fountaingrove to the overlook that I used to visit all the time. Ben drank a lot, and Joyous had a little to drink and Laura and I drank Red Bull. We talked about a lot of stuff, but mostly the Theatre. Ben told me how Courtney steals from work, and I thought that was interesting. Then the discussion about gay relationships came up, and of course, I had to talk about all of mine, and everyone was curious about what I wanted in a relationship, and I told them. Ben seemed interested, or just really drunk. He tried to move closer to me, but knocked over the Vodka, and we decided to leave. We went back to the car, and went to K-Rows. Crystal was working, and she said hi, but had a lot of work to do. Good thing they sat us in the back, for what was about to happen would have been MUCH worse it it would have been in the front section.

We ordered, and Ben was rubbing my leg under the table, which was okay, actually, it was quite nice. Then he was doing something under the table, and everyone was wondering what he was doing. He grabbed my hand, and pulled it under the table into his lap, where he had pulled out his dick! Well, that was interesting, so we all switched seats so me and Ben were sitting by the window, and not on the isle where everyone could easily see what was going on under the table. Laura and Joyous went to the restroom and I was talking to Ben, and he leaned torwards me like he wanted me to kiss him, so I did. When I leaned back, I realized that everyone sitting around us had seen us kiss! Oh, well. I liked it. So we ate, and Ben poured rice all over, and then passed out. We hung out in K-Rows for a while until the Sheriffs showed up to eat by us, and we decided that it was time to leave. We got ben up from being passed out, and left. I sent Laura back with the tip, and apparently she got questioed by the Sheriff about her age, and stuff. She was kewl about it, and we left. I didn’t want to go home yet, so we started to drive up the freeway to Healdsburg, when Ben looked like he wanted to get out, so I pulled over, and he got out. He went climbing all around in the bushes, and we didn’t know what was going on. He wanted to be left alone, so we did. After about 10 minutes of waiting, we finally got him back into the car, and I decided that we needed to go somewhere stable. So I took him to Kevin’s house. Ben passed out on Laura’s lap on Kevin’s couch. We sat in the living room for a while, and I decided that maybe he should lay down in the bedroom, so he would be more comfortable. So I set up the pull out bed, and we walked him in there, and he went to sleep. I waited around a while with everyone, then took Laura and Joyous to Laura’s car in the parking garage, and came back to Kevin’s to keep an eye out for Ben waking up. I put in Rocky Horror Picture Show, and watched all of it. It ended up being 4:45 AM, and I dozed off finally. Approxomately 15 minutes later, I was awakened by Ben shaking me saying, “Tage, man I need to go home!!!” So I got up, and put my shoes on, and took Ben to hos car. Ben didn’t remember anything after getting to Fountaingrove. I let him in on what happened. He was really embarrassed, and didn’t want anyone else to know about it ever. I promised I wouldn’t tell anyone, and assured him that it was all okay. I told him to call me the next day, and I had to work.

Then….

He didn’t call me all day, so I called him and left a voice mail on his cell phone. No return call. Oh, well. So I was ready to leave the theatre at 5, cause I was REALLY tired, and wanted to sleep. I go to leave through the lobby and Ben is there like 1/2 hour early. Apparently, he wanted to talk to me. He thanked me for taking care of him, and he was really appreciative, and he was sorry for embarrassing me, and I told him not to worry about it, because I enjoyed talking care of him, and it was kind of fun. So I told him that he needed to tell me where he wanted to go with things. I see three (four) ways that we can go: (1) We can just be friends, (2) We can be “fuck buddies” or (3) We can “go out” (or (4) we can not even be friends, and end whatever we have now). I hope that he chooses one soon, I act completely different in all these different situations. I NEED to know what he wants to do. He was supposed to call me last night after work, but didn’t, so maybe he will call today. If not, I will call him. Okay, enough for this post!

Quote Crazy…

I was finding good quotes while I was waiting for a phone call (which has not come yet!!)

Here:
“God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference.”
-Reinhold Niebuhr

“Honesty is the first chapter in the book of wisdom.”
-Thomas Jefferson

“The indispensable first step to getting the things you want out of life is this: decide what you want.”
-Ben Stein

“Each time you are honest and conduct yourself with honesty, a success force will drive you toward greater success. Each time you lie, even with a little white lie, there are strong forces pushing you toward failure.”
-Joseph Sugarman

“The golden opportunity you are seeking is in yourself. It is not in your environment; it is not in luck or chance, or the help of others; it is in yourself alone.”
-Orison Swett Marden

“No legacy is so rich as honesty.”
-William Shakespeare

“We are told never to cross a bridge until we come to it, but this world is owned by men who have ‘crossed bridges’ in their imagination far ahead of the crowd.”
-Anon.

“The entrepreneur is essentially a visualizer and an actualizer… He can visualize something, and when he visualizes it he sees exactly how to make it happen.”
-Robert L. Schwartz

“I was taught very early that I would have to depend entirely upon myself; that my future lay in my own hands.”
-Darius Ogden Mills

“Hold yourself responsible for a higher standard than anybody expects of you. Never excuse yourself.”
-Henry Ward Beecher

“Nothing happens by itself… it all will come your way, once you understand that you have to make it come your way, by your own exertions.”
-Ben Stein

“Most people give up just when they’re about to achieve success. They quit on the one yard line. They give up at the last minute of the game one foot from a winning touchdown.”
-H. Ross Perot

“The entire sum of existence is the magic of being needed by just one other person.”
-Vi Putnam

“The expert at anything was once a beginner.”
-Hayes

“All progress occurs because people dare to be different.”
-Harry Millner

“Maturity begins to grow when you can sense your concern for others outweighing your concern for yourself.”
-John MacNaughton

“The whole secret of life is to be interested in one thing profoundly and in a thousand things well.”
-Horace Walpole

“Insanity: doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results.”
-Albert Einstein

“To avoid criticism, do nothing, say nothing, and be nothing.”
-Elbert Hubbard

“Never believe that a few caring people can’t change the world. For, indeed, that’s all who ever have.”
-Margaret Mead

“Don’t dwell on reality; it will only keep you from greatness.”
-Rev. Randall R. McBride, Jr.

“Bluntness is a virtue.”
-Allison Ling

“Our character is what we do when we think no one is looking.”
-H. Jackson Brown, Jr.

“The true test of character is not how much we know how to do, but how we behave when we don’t know what to do.”
-John Holt

“Shoot for the moon. Even if you miss, you’ll land among the stars.”
-Les Brown

“To accomplish great things, we must not only act, but also dream; not only plan, but also believe.”
-Anatole France

“The roots of true achievement lie in the will to become the best that you can become.”
-Harold Taylor

“Keep away from people who try to belittle your ambitions. Small people always do that, but the really great make you feel that you, too, can become great.”
-Mark Twain

“Confidence is the hinge on the door to success.”
-Mary O’Hare Dumas

“Who has confidence in himself will gain the confidene of others.”
-Leib Lazarow

“I have said nothing because there is nothing I can say that would describe how I feel as perfectly as you deserve it.”
-Kyle Schmidt

“There is no disguise which can hide love for long where it exists, or simulate it where it does not.”
-La Rochefoucauld

“A relationship is like a rose, How long it lasts, no one knows; Love can erase an awful past, Love can be yours, you’ll see at last; To feel that love, it makes you sigh, To have it leave, you’d rather die; You hope you’ve found that special rose, ‘Cause you love and care for the one you chose.”
-Rob Cella

“You must be the change you wish to see in the world.”
-Mahatma Gandhi

“Reasonable people adapt themselves to the world. Unreasonable people attempt to adapt the world to themselves. All progress, therefore, depends on unreasonable people.”
-George Bernard Shaw

“Don’t let life discourage you; everyone who got where he is had to begin where he was.”
-Richard L. Evans

“When you are content to be simply yourself and don’t compare or compete, everybody will respect you.”
-Lao-Tzu

“Time goes by so fast, people go in and out of your life. You must never miss the opportunity to tell these people how much they mean to you.”
-”Cheers”

“If you don’t like something, change it. If you can’t change it, change your attitude. Don’t complain.”
-Maya Angelou

“Some men see things as they are and ask, ‘why?’ I dream things that never were and ask, ‘why not?’”
NB: This quote is a paraphrase from a similar quote by G. B. Shaw.
-Robert Francis Kennedy

“Friendship is the hardest thing in the world to explain. It’s not something you learn in school. But if you haven’t learned the meaning of friendship, you really haven’t learned anything.”
-Muhammad Ali

“True friends stab you in the front.”
-Oscar Wilde
“Most people would rather be certain they’re miserable, than risk being happy.”
-Robert Anthony

“The grand essentials of happiness are: something to do, something to love, and something to hope for.”
-Allan K. Chalmers

“When one door of happiness closes, another opens; but often we look so long at the closed door that we do not see the one which has opened for us.”
-Helen Keller

Waiting….

I am sitting here waiting a phone call from my new _________. You see, that is what the phone call is to decide. What will Ben be to me? Will he be just a friend, a “fuck buddy”, or will he be my boyfriend? I don’t know what he is going to choose. I wait anxiously to see what it will bring. Anytime now…

SOMEBODY PLEASE TAKE AWAY BETH’S LIVEJOURNAL ACCESS!!!!

SHE MUST STOP POSTING SOOOOO MUCH ABOUT SOOOOO LITTLE!!! I am just kdding. It was very interesting to hear her blaber on about nothing. Wait, she does that all the time anyways. Kewlio. Well, work was okay. I can’t wait until tomorrow!! I am going to go to this Model Train show in Marin, then go out partaying with my new homies! It is going to be really fun!! We (everyone but me) are going to get drunk at this bar in SF. It is going to be really fun! I hope I get a lot out of everyone. It should be okay.